--- title: "\"Take A Load Off, Inner Roommate...\"" description: "\"Take A Load Off, Inner Roommate...\"" image: https://thrivetolead.com/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/Inner+Roommate.jpeg --- [![ThriveToLead logo transparent](https://thrivetolead.com/hs-fs/hubfs/ThriveToLead%20logo%20transparent.png?width=400&height=169&name=ThriveToLead%20logo%20transparent.png)](https://thrivetolead.com) ![header-bar](https://www.fthemes.net/hubfs/header-bar.svg) ![close-bar](https://www.fthemes.net/hubfs/close-bar.svg) - [Home](https://thrivetolead.com) - Coaching Show submenu for Coaching - [Executive Coaching](https://thrivetolead.com/executive-coach) - [Assessments](https://thrivetolead.com/coaching-assessments) - [Teams](https://thrivetolead.com/team-coaching) - [Workshops](https://thrivetolead.com/workshops) - Resources Show submenu for Resources - [About Kristen](https://thrivetolead.com/about-kristen-schmitt) - [Testimonials](https://thrivetolead.com/client-testimonials) - [Contact](https://thrivetolead.com/contact) - [Blog](https://thrivetolead.com/blog) - [Home](https://thrivetolead.com) - Coaching Show submenu for Coaching - [Executive Coaching](https://thrivetolead.com/executive-coach) - [Assessments](https://thrivetolead.com/coaching-assessments) - [Teams](https://thrivetolead.com/team-coaching) - [Workshops](https://thrivetolead.com/workshops) - Resources Show submenu for Resources - [About Kristen](https://thrivetolead.com/about-kristen-schmitt) - [Testimonials](https://thrivetolead.com/client-testimonials) - [Contact](https://thrivetolead.com/contact) - [Blog](https://thrivetolead.com/blog) # "Take A Load Off, Inner Roommate..." [![](https://app.hubspot.com/settings/avatar/f0688954449454cfa33b0803dce8fe0d)](https://thrivetolead.com/blog/author/kristen-schmitt) [Kristen Schmitt](https://thrivetolead.com/blog/author/kristen-schmitt) Sep 11, 2018 5:34:38 PM ![](https://thrivetolead.com/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/Inner+Roommate.jpeg) We all “get in our own way.” We all, consciously or unconsciously, engage in behaviors that hinder our effectiveness, our results, our level of satisfaction…you name it. People do this to themselves in a variety of ways. We all “get in our own way.” We all, consciously or unconsciously, engage in behaviors that hinder our effectiveness, our results, our level of satisfaction…you name it. People do this to themselves in a variety of ways. If we try to give constructive feedback to an employee when we’re angry and irritated, we’re getting in the way of our message. If we do not return the phone call of an angry customer because it is uncomfortable, we’re getting in the way of resolving the issue. If we make a batch of brownies when we’re trying to shed pounds, we’re likely getting in the way of our weight loss. Often, we get in our own way by letting our mental chatter or head trash get the best of us. “That person seems annoyed. You must have done something wrong,” I tell myself. Or “you’re never going to get that proposal out in time!” We talk to ourselves all day long, often with a very critical voice. I recently came across a mantra. “Take a Load Off, Inner Roommate,” it said. How profound! The way that we talk to ourselves has a tremendous impact on how we show up, how we perform at work, and how we parent our kids. If we can quiet, ignore or better yet, laugh at that inner roommate when he/she not serving us, we will find ourselves in a much happier and more productive place. ###### Popular Post - [Ownership v. 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